oh feelings…

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Feelings are real!

They can ruin your day or make it the best day ever!

Today, I wanna encourage you to have feelings!

I know, I sound kinda weird…

But keep reading!

One of my girls was not having a good day.

And when we were texting, she texted me this:

“I don’t even understand why it makes my heart so heavy. It was a crush.” 

Crushes are a serious thing!

I don’t know you but I take them seriously!

I am one of those “all in” kinda girl!

When I love, I love full force!

When I care, I do it without thinking of myself.

When I crush, Oh my gosh!! 😳

AND I KNOW A LOT OF YOU ARE THE SAME AS ME!!! I know a lot of you love with all of you! I know a lot of you care with all your heart!! So…

Treat a crush like a serious thing!

Don’t let others tell you how to feel.

Don’t let others tell you that your situation is small!

Don’t let others tell you that a crush is nothing!

It’s ok to feel! Just don’t sin when feeling!!!

It seriously bothers me when you ladies tell me stuff like:

“I know he is just a crush and it’s stupid! I have never really talked to him but it hurt me seeing him with that girl!” 

NO! ITS NOT STUPID!!!!

“I feel so dumb! We are not even dating!”

NO! YOU ARE NOT DUMB!!!

If it is affecting your emotions, it means it is important for you.

And if it is important to you, you don’t think it’s important to a Heavenly Father who is MADLY IN LOVE WITH YOU??!!!???

(Psalm 8:4)

And you know how I am gonna finish this blog… Right?

Yup… Pray!

Please show HIM (God) your feelings when talking to God! Tell HIM about them!

Tel HIM what you feel and why. He already knows but HE wants HIS little princess to come to HIM and vent with HIM.

HE is a good good FATHER!!!

I love you!

#prayingwhilewaiting

 

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Ugh this picture!

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Ladies!!!

I pray my future husband doesn’t make ME a priority!!

I saw this picture the other day. And I have to say… it really bothered me.

No, I am not saying that I want to be neglected or used by my husband. But I really really pray for him to be wise enough to get me out of this thinking.

I get what you are saying. A guy should love you, protect you, CHASE YOU!!! He should make SURE THAT YOU KNOW you are loved, wanted, desired…

I’ve even said that…

Goodness! I go to bed every night wanting that!!! I know what it feels like!!! I am in bed wishing to the point of tears for a man to love me like that…

And yes, when you are first dating or getting to know the guy… you expect for extra attention. I mean… you expect extra love!!

Guys behave really good in the boyfriend phase and then they become… let’s just say…more relaxed when they get married… or so I have been told!

Let me see if I make any sense… I know the Bible says for men to love their wives like Christ loves the church. This doesn’t mean for guys to do everything just right so that we can be happy. That’s manipulation!!! Jesus died for us so that we could be holy again. Men are supposed to love us enough to help us get to a deeper relationship with Christ. So they can help us to become holy!!! Marriage is not about the couple being happy but for the couple to be more like Christ!

What bothers me about this picture is that this is what’s the problem with a lot of us women…And I include myself!!!

We have that mentality that they should worship us. We have that idea that they have to do everything perfect so that we can be happy!!!

There is another phrase that hits me like a punch in the stomach every time I hear it.

“Happy wife, happy life!”

Ugh!!! That’s just wrong!!!

We expect for them to meet all of our needs when it is NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!!!!

Don’t get me wrong!!! I believe that a guy should swim shark infested waters for you or flight a plane to come have breakfast with you! (A pilot guy was interested in me a few months ago. It was AMAZING to have him around. He did wonderful things for me but it didn’t work. He wasn’t in love with Christ.) 

HECK!!! A guy already died in a cross for you!!!!

What I don’t like is that FEELING of ENTITLEMENT!!!! That is not humbleness!!!!

Your happiness should not be the goal for any relationship!!!

YOUR HAPPINESS SHOULD NEVER BE THE GOAL FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!

YOUR HOLINESS SHOULD BE THE GOAL FOR EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (let me add more of these) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So the moment you have those feeling like “oh dude, take care of me cuz if you don’t someone else will!”

You slap yourself in the face… twice if needed!!!! AND pray that your eyes are opened to what God thinks of that attitude.  Pray that God teaches you how to go back to humble! Back to submitting!!! 

This is why we have a lot of fearful man who do everything the women want so they won’t be nagged. This is why men are forgetting how to be men! Because we, women, act like this!

And please please pray that your guy puts God first before you… otherwise he won’t know how to love you, he won’t know how to guide you or he won’t even know how to deal with you!

And hey guys who read my blogs!!! 😉 This doesn’t mean you can just not call back after a date, or not call back after you missed her call, or not answer a text message, or be a jerk (some of you guys are really good at that!)… remember that she is the daughter of the King of kings and he has very creative ways to terminate people! Let me remind you the lady that ended up as a pillar of salt, or King Herod was swallowed by worms, or Jezebel was eaten by dogs… I wouldn’t want to mess with one of His daughters! That’s all I am saying!

Ladies, let’s not teach the younger ones that this picture is what we should act like or expect from men. But that we should expect for them to put God first and that we always should be humble!!!

Philippians 2:3

I love you!!

#prayingwhilewaiting

“It is not you, it is me!”

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Like my title?

“It is not you, it is me!”

Ah that phrase!

Don’t you love it? 😑

I’ve got it a few times… Well more than a few… Way too many times, if you ask me…

So when a guy tells you “it is not you, it is me!” …well… Ok… Are you ready for the ugly truth?… it is you!

In the guys’ eyes IT IS YOU.

I know! I know!

It’s a bit too harsh for me to say.

Here is the thing.

Let’s get real!

He is just not into you.

It’s ok!

Not a big deal! He might be an idiot!

Let’s talk about it shall we?

First let’s talk about you!

If you love the Lord, if you fear the Lord, if you serve The Lord… If you are after your Father’s business… If you are after Gods heart… THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!! The Bible says you should be praised!!!!!

Yes, I know I just said it is you and that i might be contradicting myself over here.

In the eyes of the guy that says this to you, yeah! It is you. But that doesn’t make him RIGHT!

Some guys are way too into the perfect woman according to society. You know the one that Victoria Secret uses for their underwear campaign. Some guys go with the ones that look hot with hoodies and unwashed jeans, I know weird. Some guys will only go for Asians or Mexicans or… You get it! Some guys have super low self esteem that like to go for past girlfriends or “like” old lovers because that’s all they think they deserve. Some guys would rather a beautiful body other than a heart that follows Jesus. Some guys will not go for someone who is independent and successful in ministry because they are too afraid and they have identity crisis, so heck they will never go for someone successful. Some guys are just too overwhelmed with their shortcomings.

Sorry guys! Don’t hate me. If you are reading this… I am not talking about you! I said SOME Haha  …and I know… Us women have stupid reasons too!

See why it is super important to pray for the men?… Those dudes need the prayers!

When I said that yes, it is you!

I just means THAT guy doesn’t want you.

Don’t get mad at him.

Don’t hate him.

Don’t curse him.

But instead pray for him… Just one last time… Telling your father that you are done praying and that hopefully the other girl will pray for him the way you have been praying…

Remember my last blog!

If the guy doesn’t go for a ruby, he is not worth the ruby!

If the guy goes for a simple rock, he has no idea of the value of real rocks… You don’t want someone like that…

Would you give your life, your dreams, your plans, your desires to someone who cannot tell between rocks?!?!

Please say no!

Yeah… In his eyes, it is you. You don’t meet the qualifications (usually stupid ones) a guy has…

But like I said… If you are a true example of a proverbs 31 woman, you wait for a guy like Boaz.

NOTHING LESS!!!!!

Remember that for God you are His princess, you are His ruby! In His eyes YOU ARE PERFECT!!!

You want a guy that sees you with the same eyes God sees you with…

I love you!

And I am so sorry he cannot see your worth…

#prayingwhilewaiting

 

 

EXTRA PART OF THE BLOG:

Let me share a bit more of my personal rejections yeah?

I have been told several “reasons” why they won’t go out with me… 

One time a guy I was seeing told me that he had stop seeing me because he met this one girl who in his words she was “on fire for The Lord” and that she was on “another level with Jesus”… They got married… She cheated on him and he came back to me wanting another chance… 

Another time a guy told me that he wasn’t into me because in his mind my boobs should be bigger! My boobs are just fine and there is no way I could carry anything bigger than what I’ve got! 

Another time a guy told me that I was “too passionate for Jesus” that he wouldn’t want to compete… Hahaha I know stupid!

Some still hurt… Not gonna lie… 

But then I am reminded that my Father LOVES me and that He has never rejected me. The creator of the universe. The one that has you living. The one that keeps your heart beating LOVES YOU!!!! 

Heck! Whatever a stupid mortal tells you has no weight you know?!?! 

(Raising my glass of water) 

To new stupid mortals! Haha 😉